The Basic Guide on How to Deal with the Death of Your Loved One
Most of the people who have a loved one or an important person in their life who has just passed away are actually experiencing the stages of mourning or loss and grief, which include the feelings and the acts of anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, and denial and isolation. The five basic stages of mourning or loss and grief does not happen to the people in an orderly manner, and such also occurs to the people who have learned about their terminal illness. Denial and isolation is one of the stages of loss and grief for being in denial is recognized as a common defense mechanism of every human beings, and they often isolate themselves from the world to feel numb and avoid any emotions from occurring within them. Anger is also one of the stages for the people would often blame and feel resentment towards the loved ones who have left them for causing them pain and for leaving them; while bargaining, on the other hand, is when the people would often produce if only statements and such is a weaker line of defense that can protect them from the painful and heartbreaking reality. When it comes to the stage of depression, the people may experience two different kinds of depression, such as a reaction that is subtle and private, and a reaction to any practical implications that may be related to their loss. The acceptance stage, on the other hand, is when the people can already cope up with the reality and the truth that one of the important individuals in their lives are already dead.
The best way or method to cope up with the fact that their loved ones are gone is to engrave and remember their memories forever, and it is also best for the people to understand their loved one who died is already out of pain and has arrived in a much better place. The basic guide on how to help the people in dealing the death of their loved ones in the right and proper way or method are to plan a proper celebration of the loved ones’ life when he or she is still alive, for doing such activities can help you make yourself busy; to always remember that there is no rulebook on how a person or individual should deal with their loved ones’ death; and to stop and prevent yourself from judging one’s self, especially when you get to accept this reality immediately for each of us may respond differently. Keeping or making yourself busy is considered as a common method of the people to accept the fact that their loved one is already gone, and that is by deciding what to do when planning the memorial service.